Be Kind to Yourself

We are oftentimes our worst critic. The negative thoughts our mind produces can be a great source of suffering. Our critical mind can be unrelenting and out right vicious at times. If you have an overly self critical mind it can be good practice to learn how to be kind to yourself. Below are some questions/statements I will suggest to clients when they are trying to be more kind to...

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Stay With The Facts

No I am not talking about the media or our current political landscape. Staying with the facts is a great way to help calm the mind. When our mind worries it tends to try and tell the future. It does this so we feel we can better prepare ourselves for negative events. Our mind however is not a good fortune teller. Our mind often just tells us worse case scenarios which...

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Mental Health Toolkit

Many people come to therapy to help manage stress. One goal I will try and work with them on is developing a personalized mental health toolkit. A mental health toolkit is a list of personalized coping skills that they can use in a time of need. When someone is working on figuring out their mental health tool kit I will recommend the following. Write it down Find a place to write down...

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One Exercise to Improve your relationship.

Oftentimes couples will report to me that they feel less connected to their partner. They will state that managing their lives sometimes feels like they are on autopilot with no time to connect. I will recommend this exercise for them to try to help them start to connect more. It’s easy and can only take a few minutes a day.   Speaker: Tell your partner one good thing that happened today, one not...

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Common Signs of Anxiety

What are common signs you may be suffering from anxiety? Uncontrollable worrying Avoidance due to a fear of embarrassment, humiliation, or criticism. Difficulty in settling down or getting comfortable Being on edge or irritable Difficulty falling asleep Physical symptoms such as heart racing, shaking, twitching, difficulty breathing, sweating, nausea and others. Feeling mentally and physically exhausted Waking up in the middle of the night Having a hard time staying focused ...

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Back In The Office

Valor Counseling is excited to announce that in office sessions are now being offered. Telehealth services will be continued to be offered to those who prefer them. In order to reduce risk of Covid-19 spreading there are new requirements for returning to in office sessions. If you are showing symptoms or have been exposed to Covid-19 we ask that you either choose to do a telehealth session or reschedule your...

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What is Anxiety

Anxiety is an emotion that is based in fear. As humans we all have anxiety. Anxiety is generated from the threat detection center of our brain. When we were cavemen it was highly useful for us to be on alert and anticipate potential threats to survive. Anxiety is what allows us to respond to a potential tiger attack by triggering the physiological fight, flight, or freeze response within us. Today...

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Having a Good Summer in 2020

Going through summer time during a global pandemic can be stressful. Wanting to take full advantage of the nice weather and being restricted can lead to you feeling defeated. Having a positive mindset can influence how your summer will go. Here are some tips to help have the right mindset for the summer   Be present in the moment   Oftentimes we will try and fortune tell what will happen next with the corona virus...

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How to Improve Intimacy

Over time it is not uncommon for intimacy to suffer in a relationship. Many couples seek couples therapy to improve this area of their relationship. I will often hear things like, “I feel we are roommates.” or, “I just don’t feel as emotionally connected to my partner.” There are many ways to cultivate intimacy and deepen that emotional connection. Here are just a few exercises.   Make a day or two special   Pick...

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